What does a romantic date consist of? How do we even select a date that will be romantic? The concept of a ‘romantic date’ is quite vague so in today’s blog, we’ll answer these questions and show you how to plan a romantic date!
So, what does a romantic date consist of? To answer in short, a romantic date consists of the exciting and mysterious feelings which arise as a result of enjoying activities and experiences on a date with your partner which appeals to their individual Love Languages, personality and passions.
Let’s start with ‘What is a romantic date?’
We’ve always found that dates are the most romantic when the event appeals to several love languages such that the time flies and you feel an intense emotional connection! This scenario would normally be referred to as ‘romance’.
So what is romance?
We did some research and were surprised that there’s not that much discussion or research on the topic. There are lots of ideas for bringing supposedly bringing romance into dating but very little in terms of a really good answer.
We normally hate to use dictionary references…but in this case, it really does clear things up. Google’s dictionary (which is derived from ‘Oxford Languages’) defines romance as ‘a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love’.
Now this is bang on point but it’s not that practical.
The Goodmenproject also had an interesting definition for romance which we liked:
Romance is nothing more than savoring your partner and the gifts of your intimate relationship. From that place of savoring, from that place of gratefulness, you give back. You slow down and nurture your partner. You slow down and get in touch with what makes your partner’s heart sing.
Now that’s a lot more helpful!
So, how do we have a romantic date?
The classic ‘romantic date’ usually brings to mind a few quiet sips of vino followed by dinner at an exquisite restaurant (French or Italian) by candlelight. Now, this would be an amazing date for many people but it may not work for everyone. Lisa would love it for example, but for Scott, this isn’t his idea of romance.
(That said, Scott has taken Lisa on this date before but this was with her likes in mind – he obviously wasn’t thinking of himself).
So why doesn’t this work for Scott? Does he not like food?
Well, not quite… this date will work for those who have a certain personality, set of Love Languages and passions.
So what are Love Languages?
Love Languages represent the means of communicating love to our partner and also how we ourselves receive love.
The Five Love Languages are gift-giving, physical touch, acts of service, words of affirmation and quality time and are discussed by Gary Chapman in his book ‘The Five Love Languages‘.
(If you don’t know what your partner’s Love Languages are, your partner and yourself can take the quiz here).
So, this date would work for Lisa because it appeals to both her passions and love language. Lisa is a foodie, she cares about the environment, loves surprises & her love languages are physical touch, gifts and acts of service.
But for Scott whose love languages are physical touch, quality time and words of affirmation…well it’s wouldn’t be a bad night by any means but it wouldn’t be his perfect romantic date.
Now that we know a romantic date involves using knowledge about your partner’s love languages, passions and personality, how do we proceed?
We’ll answer this with a recent example. Scott wanted to provide Lisa with a romantic Valentine’s Day date experience this year (given we run this website, how could he not!?).
In order for the date to match each one of Lisa’s Love Languages, he did the following:
- During the day, he had a bouquet of 12 thick-stemmed roses delivered right to her whilst she was working from home. He went through about ten companies to find one which offered good quality roses but that also donated part of their profits to charity and used environmentally sustainable packaging (recall, Lisa loves flowers, plus this matches to the ‘Gifts’ Love Language).
- He then asked her to meet him in the city for dinner (she had no idea where they were going so this was a surprise). He then took her straight to a Japanese restaurant (which he’d noticed her having a good look at the menu in its window several weeks before) and said she could order ‘anything and everything you want sweetheart!’.
- After this, he walked her home whilst they held hands (physical touch) and talked about her career and hopes for 2021.
- Finally, at home, she was able to relax after her stressful day at work whilst he cleaned up the house (which matches with acts of service).
It goes without saying, but this date made Lisa very happy and there was lots of romance in the air.
We have many nights like this which keep our spark alive even after several years of being together (statistically, our spark should have gone out by now so you can see that these ideas really work!).
So how can you do the same?
Our blog has only been around for a month, but we already have over 100 date ideas on this website which have been ranked by theme, personality type, love languages and budget (you can easily find them all at this link).
And yes, plenty more date ideas are coming soon (which we can’t wait to share)!
If you simply match the love language and passions of your partner to the date idea, it’s hard not to have a romantic date and make memories you’ll keep forever. We’ve included many free date ideas as well to those who are budget conscious and plenty of indoor options for those couples who are dealing with the lockdowns around the world.
We wish you the best for your date and hope you all had a great Valentine’s Day!